Valentines Day: The Art of the Chase

You can not pay for affection, but you can buy attention. If you do not understand that first sentence, please do yourself a favor and stop reading. You will probably disagree with the rest of my blog. Its okay, Im cool with agreeing to disagree.

Awwww, you think she interested and the feelings are mutual from you. One or more issues make simply dating like normal people impossible. (She may have a boo whom is not treating her right and/or others are perusing her at the same time.) This may take a lot of effort on your part, so make sure she is worth the amount of energy that you will expend during the chase. First of all, the amount of money you spend is not as important as how you spend  whatever money you decide to spend. Spend Wisely. Wiley Coyote maxed out his credit cards buying Acme products trying catch that Road Runner and we all know that ended right. , You cant worry about what your friends will say because they asses probably single too. The effort needed to successfully catch her will probably at worst get you teased.

Now that the basics are out the way lets move on to the next phase of ensnaring your prey. (Im going say this again for the slow people. This will only work if she has some interest in you. If you want to learn to seduce someone, may I suggest Robert Greene’s book The Art of Seduction.)

Converse with her to discover things that you two may have in common and develop a friendship. Be careful that you arent too friendly because you may get stuck in that box. The friendship box isnt a bad thing, it just ends your chase.  After you two have become friends start trying to hang out one on one in more romantic settings. If she accepts your invitation then you have a chance, if she declines you may have been placed in the friend box. Stop here.

Communication is key. Just like those kids in school who thought were too cool and are now doing nothing life, if you do the same as them in the communication department… well.  You are not in the “Why U” phrase. She is making case to further things, cut you lose or put you in that friend box. So you have to make you case to her. A text message, email, tweet, phone call or something that lets her know you are on her mind will go a long way here. DO NOT DO ALL OF THE ABOVE EVERYDAY…you dont want to her to drop you right? If she notices enjoys, looks forward too and/or notices when you dont hit her proceed. If she is indifferent you are probably in the friend box. Stop here.

The little things matter. If you truly care you will remember important dates and events in her life. Acknowledging these milestones before others will go a long way in her mind. Its easy to remember something that you both want to do or enjoy.. its is another thing all together to remember something  may only be important to her. Failure to remember these little details, esp. if she likes you, will get you dropped or have you placed on that dreaded friend box. You are almost there be careful to remember the previous two paragraphs, they all work together.

By now you should either know if its going to work or not. You should start seeing signs that things are turning in your favor. If you do not see things coming together, if she is worth it keep trying. If she has told you that she can see you two only as friends and are comfortable settling and/or you feel the same way…. STOP HERE.

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Disclaimer: Just to clear up any misunderstandings. Im putting in my effort because I want too. You know who you are. That is all.

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