Relationships: Why Stay

Would you stay in the building in the photo above? Dont worry we’ll wait. You wouldnt stay in a building that was not maintained, so why would you stay with someone who isnt?

I always hear women say that men aint shit. Yet, the vast majority of these women probably should have never have spoken to these men that they say aint shit. The signs no matter how much smoke the gentleman generates to throw them off of their true character are still present. It would seem that the lady decides to continue until they are “Sleeping with a broken heart”. Then there are those women who are with a dude and that guy seems to be able to do everything short of having sex on ustream and the woman keeps taking him back. I just want to know.. like seriously why do they stay?

Ladies if you meet a dude and he has girl that you know of annnnnnd he does things with you that if you were his girl would upset you why do you think that you are “THE ONE”? I honestly think that all dudes who are in relationships and seek to date others are not “bad guys” That guy should take steps to ensure that you know his situation and he shouldnt do things with you that he would do with his girl friend. If you and him feel a connection before any single dates, sexual innendos and/or actual sex takes place he needs to break up with his current boo. Even then you shouldnt give him the privelge of your company out right. Date like normal people and see what develops. The difference between a guy who does this and a guy who doesnt are a couple of things that are important to all relationships; honesty, communication and respect. So respect yourself and make sure he respects your mind and body.

I know a few females who shall remain nameless who have been in on and off relationships for years and are either simply comfortable, scared of being alone and/or brainwashed. I want you do a test, (not responsible if you break something) go in your closet and flick the switch on and off on the light in your closet. I bet that bulb burns out after a while. The same thing probably happens to your heart with the constant flipping of that relationship switch. Everyone makes mistakes, but only someone who doesnt care makes the same mistakes over and over again. In the NBA you get a certain amount of fouls before you are kicked out of the game and some fouls are so bad players can be kicked out for just one. Once a player gets close to fouling out the coach benches the player to give them time to get their head back in the game. So has your guy committed a foul, been benched and then allowed back on the court only to foul out of the game shortly after returning? Why keep this player on your team and not pick up better player during the off season? WHY STAY?

Whether you women realize it or not, you control the entire relationship from start to finish. You set yourself up for either success or failure. When you decided to either start something new or continue something that is bad look it will work something like this.. Your relationship is a seed and if you either plant that seed in poisonous ground and/or allow any old pesticides to be used I doubt that that plant will last long or be healthy if it grows. However if you plant that seed and work healthy soil that seed has the potential to grow into one of those big ass California Red woods.

If i didnt pay rent for my apartment, I couldnt stay right? So if he aint paying your emotional, intellectual, spiritual (if you are spiritual) and physical invoices….. HOW CAN YOU STAY?

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