PSA: Stop Fronting/Be Yourself

Why do people always want someone the can not have? I have no clue. I do not think there is anyone that i cant “have”. Its all about how much you want to be with that person and how much time and work you willing to put in to secure their affection. Truthfully I love a challenge, any type of challenge.

People have been telling me all my life how I should act, what I should and shouldnt do and/or lectured me about the real world. I do what I want how I want period, when given a choice in a matter at hand. Fun facts. I was a manager at Target before I was 20, I ran two video game stores before I was 23 and I was Store Manager of a CVS before 25 all while doing what the fuck I wanted to do.  Oh I almost forgot, I also was blessed to work and continue to work with some of the biggest names in entertainment. You can ask anyone who knew me in High School… I have not changed.. for better or worst I am me.

I said all that not to toot my own horn, but to prove a point. If you want something and work at it you can have it period. I would not change a moment of life… except going to college. My mother guilted me into it.

So back to the first topic. I have my eye on someone and well its complicated… but what in life isnt. I will put forth the same effort that has gotten me to where I am today into proving my worth and convincing her that its a smart move to draft me and let me start the game.

Fellaz, stop fronting like you dont like that special someone. You may miss out and be wondering why only get playing time with d-squad women. Sometimes you have to go out on a limb, but isnt that where the sweetest fruit grows?

Have faith in yourself, the potential for greatness is in us all. Faith without action is empty hope.

I wonder if she will read this?

Valentines Day: The Art of the Chase

You can not pay for affection, but you can buy attention. If you do not understand that first sentence, please do yourself a favor and stop reading. You will probably disagree with the rest of my blog. Its okay, Im cool with agreeing to disagree.

Awwww, you think she interested and the feelings are mutual from you. One or more issues make simply dating like normal people impossible. (She may have a boo whom is not treating her right and/or others are perusing her at the same time.) This may take a lot of effort on your part, so make sure she is worth the amount of energy that you will expend during the chase. First of all, the amount of money you spend is not as important as how you spend  whatever money you decide to spend. Spend Wisely. Wiley Coyote maxed out his credit cards buying Acme products trying catch that Road Runner and we all know that ended right. , You cant worry about what your friends will say because they asses probably single too. The effort needed to successfully catch her will probably at worst get you teased.

Now that the basics are out the way lets move on to the next phase of ensnaring your prey. (Im going say this again for the slow people. This will only work if she has some interest in you. If you want to learn to seduce someone, may I suggest Robert Greene’s book The Art of Seduction.)

Converse with her to discover things that you two may have in common and develop a friendship. Be careful that you arent too friendly because you may get stuck in that box. The friendship box isnt a bad thing, it just ends your chase.  After you two have become friends start trying to hang out one on one in more romantic settings. If she accepts your invitation then you have a chance, if she declines you may have been placed in the friend box. Stop here.

Communication is key. Just like those kids in school who thought were too cool and are now doing nothing life, if you do the same as them in the communication department… well.  You are not in the “Why U” phrase. She is making case to further things, cut you lose or put you in that friend box. So you have to make you case to her. A text message, email, tweet, phone call or something that lets her know you are on her mind will go a long way here. DO NOT DO ALL OF THE ABOVE EVERYDAY…you dont want to her to drop you right? If she notices enjoys, looks forward too and/or notices when you dont hit her proceed. If she is indifferent you are probably in the friend box. Stop here.

The little things matter. If you truly care you will remember important dates and events in her life. Acknowledging these milestones before others will go a long way in her mind. Its easy to remember something that you both want to do or enjoy.. its is another thing all together to remember something  may only be important to her. Failure to remember these little details, esp. if she likes you, will get you dropped or have you placed on that dreaded friend box. You are almost there be careful to remember the previous two paragraphs, they all work together.

By now you should either know if its going to work or not. You should start seeing signs that things are turning in your favor. If you do not see things coming together, if she is worth it keep trying. If she has told you that she can see you two only as friends and are comfortable settling and/or you feel the same way…. STOP HERE.

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Disclaimer: Just to clear up any misunderstandings. Im putting in my effort because I want too. You know who you are. That is all.

Underrated: Anne Hathaway

For those of you just tuning in to Ayebeclear.com and to my randomness let me feel you in. I think that Anne Hathaway is hotter than Megan Fox. Sexiness alone is not enough today to be considered hot. We should also judge how effective you are in your craft, as well as intelligence and personality. If you put all those pieces together you get Anne Hathaway.

You are probably saying to yourself, “Self, why is ranting about her? Does she have a new project coming out? Well she voices The White Queen in Tim Burton’s Alice in Wonderland remake with comes out March 5, 2010.

The Princess Diaries may have made her a house hold name, but her adult roles are what made me join #teamanne It all started with the underground hit Havoc which even came in a NC-17 flavor. I must say I enjoyed the sex scenes. Then there was The Devil Wears Prada, Get Smart and Bride Wars, all three are great movies. KEY=617792c4

If you have not checked out these movies I suggest you do.

Tell the home @bdinero on twitter that you are #teamanne

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Valentines Music: I Need Love

Yeah boy, this aint something you play during the night of Valentine’s day. You send this link to her email a day or two before to start that mental stimulation. That way if the big day doesnt go as planned you have some stored up effort credit. Hey dont knock effort, it is the thought that counts. At least thats what I have been told. Wait let my thoughts be of doing something other than something involving her… I bet she would appreciate that thought.  ….. wait what was I typing about?

Enjoy

Valentines: Red Light Special

I dont know about the rest of yall, but I could use a Red Light Special. This shit still goes hard. What it do TLC and R.I.P. Left Eye. Fellaz if you trying to set the proper mood and you more importantly you care about the lady enough to put in some effort, this is the type of music you need to play. Even if you dont like the song a lot. ITS NOT ABOUT YOU SILLY GOOSE.

Yeah Buddy

Black History = American History

Black History month is upon us and as everyone knows classrooms will be directed and assemblies will be held all in the name of education. I think the assemblies are cool, but I dont really care for one month to focus on any particular race or cultural. I think that ALL American history classes should include history of all the races who took part shaping present day America.

I also think that continuing to put “color” on things we are helping racism stay longer. I have been taking great effort to take the race out of things, like when you say “Did you see the white guy over there in the polka dots pants?” I will now try to say “Did you see the guy over there in the polka dot pants? Im sure you would know who I was talking about either way.Little things like that can spread amongst friends and there other friends and so forth. You probably thinking that you dont do it that often. Here is what you do every time say use “race” when you dont have too put 20 bucks in a box and see how much money you wind up with in a day. LOL

Whether or not you agree with opinion please respect my right to have an opinion. If you would like to debate the issue please feel free to do so in the comments box below. Please keep you comments as polite as possible while I enjoy any type of debate, I will not let you disrespect me and any other poster.

Music: Valentine’s Day Dedication Pt1

This is for my dudes who be trying hard to please that special someone and just cant seem to get it right. This is also for those young men who tell a lady up front how they feel and what it is and they act brand new around Valentine’s Day, birthdays and other holiday.